Tuesday, January 29, 2008

Eastern Open-mindedness Vs. Western Narrow-mindedness

This is a conversation between my friend (who's settled in the US now) and I, at a restaurant in India:

Me: I wanna use the washroom

He: Me too

Me: Let's go find where it is

(We walk around, ask a couple of waiters and reach the washroom.  Its just one wooden door.  I open and walk inside)

Me (to He): Oh, there are two commodes here.  Come in.

He (reluctantly): Well..

Me: What well? There are two commodes here, we can both relieve ourselves.

He (walks in with reluctance): Okay

(After completing the task, we walk out.)

He (Smiling now): I could never do this in the USA!

Me (I've lived in the US too): I know, they'd all think you and I are gay

He: Yea!

Me (Laughing)

He (Laughing)

No but really, the west is so narrow-minded.  All the Americans can think of between two persons is the possibility of a sexual relationship or no relationship at all.  This is ridiculous.

In Hindi-Urdu combine, we must have more than a score of words to describe different types of love.  The makers of English language chose to give it poverty in this context.  There is only one majorly used word for love – love itself.

I was discussing with a Jewish friend of mine, who had gone to a family wedding in NY and had fun dancing with all the guys without anyone concerned about 'queerdom'.  He had felt sheer joy in having fun without the worries of being misjudged or misconceived.

In the east, we have a lot of fun together (again, this statement if made in the USA would refer to sexual fun – there is no other form of fun left anymore).  It's about friendship, about bonding (oops! Bonding is another word one should avoid or be branded as queer).  A touch from a friend goes a long way in making life warmer, better, secure.

During my first days in the US, I was told that it is almost a sin for two guys to put their arms on each other shoulders while hanging out, or even patting on the back!  Now, if two guys are holding hands and walking, that could raise an eyebrow.  But patting the back or putting your arm around a shoulder – these are basic gestures of human warmth.  No wonder the west is full of cold people longing for a touch of human warmth... and it's not a touch on the body I am talking about, it's a touch on the heart.  A touch that secures, a touch that conveys – I am there for you. 

It's gone missing.  Everyone's become so narrow-minded.  In such times, I love my east.

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

word!

Jay Popat said...

Enjoyed reading this post. Keep going. :)

Shalvi Agarvwal said...

Hey thats so aptly put across. I thing the same too...but these days the mentally in the western diaspora is also seeping in the eastern regions due to mindless copying. Especially in places like mumbai and delhi.

But yes, loved reading your post...keep it up guy ;)