Erotic Chat a Ground for Divorce?

A recent ruling in a Belgian Court:

BRUSSELS (Reuters) - Erotic talk with a virtual partner in chatrooms on the Internet are enough grounds for a spouse to file for divorce, a legal magazine said Wednesday, citing a recent ruling in Belgium.

Belgian legal publication De Juristenkrant said the Brussels Appeals Court ruled that although transcripts of the erotic chatroom conversation do not prove adultery, they do constitute proof of "grossly insulting behavior" which is sufficient grounds to file for divorce.

My reply on the yahoo news message board:

Erotic talks are just a simple form of sexual expression. Talking about sex with an anonymous stranger online, is hardly even in the same vicinity as adultery!

Online sex is an interesting thing. It finally leads to nothing much but self pleasure. I may be allowed to term it as an "interactive mas***bation", as compared to the monologue fantasising version.

Online erotic talks have helped me explore a lot of my own fantasies and kinks that I usually wouldn't have dared to discuss with people around me. I have personally learnt a lot about sex, foreplay and safety by chatting online.

Unless an individual tries to convert these fantasies into reality, there is no real harm in online erotic chatting. Rather, it usually means that the sex life is not as fulfilling as a partner wants it to be, and its and issue of concern that can be discussed out between the partners, and they can try to add the missing pieces. We all differ in our fantasies but we may be able to satisfy our partner by learning more about them and vice-versa.

Looking at it from a social science point of view, isn't it funny that almost every day we are able to find one new ground for divorce, where as we are unable to add any new ground for remaining married? Marriage requires work, compromise and adjustment.

Honestly, a person is lying if he/she says that they have never thought about any one else other than their partner. Every man has cheated on his wife with Pamela Anderson or Angelina Jolie, and every woman has cheated on her husband with Tom Cruise or Enrique Iglesias.

An erotic chat, is simply an extension of fantasy. If taken in the right manner, it can lead to a greater understanding and satisfaction between partners.

Let us try to treat it in the right manner.

Cheers**
Phalgun.

Link to my Yahoo news board message posting: 
   http://news.messages.yahoo.com/bbs?action=m&board=37447040&tid=nmbelgiumadulterydc&sid =37447040&mid=466

Friday, August 05, 2005

My life in USA

Well, considering this blog hasn't been updated recently (Excuse: no time & all work... REAL Reason: monsoon laziness), here's a link to the blog I maintained during my USA trip.. its fun to read!
http://crazyinusa.blogspot.com
CHECK IT OUT !!!!

Friday, July 08, 2005

This Man Will Do Anything For A Man...

A man chopped off his wife's nose (ouuuuchh!) coz she was pregnant with a girl child yet again!  Another one shot a bullet in his wife's stomach for a 3rd pregnancy, again with a girl child.  Uttar Pradesh (north Indian state) does it again!!  I wonder when will these states grow out of their ignorances and step to face reality.

 

You know, it is the man that's gene is responsible for the child being a girl or a boy.  But in a land where a man thinks a kangaroo must be some kind of a song, what do you expect?  Progressive mass widespread education is our only hope, and I think that though things look bleak, we will come around in a few decades.

 

However, if you think that this incident is a "suppression of women" issue, well it's not.  It's really a cultural problem rather than something to do with male dominance in the society.  Culturally, girls in India are net-receivers from their parents, and do not make good economical sense.  Even if they work, the money goes to her post-marital family. 

 

The funny part could start now.  Some global "so-called" NGOs will come in, and take up the fight on behalf of the aggreived women.  Well I am not saying the men haven't committed a crime.  But crime is generally the result of a circumstance.  And the stagnation of the Indian social development lies at the very root of this circumstance.  Punishing these men will be slicing the result and not the cause.

 

We need a more widespread mass education system, one that brings India out of the fatalistic belief system to an enlightened belief system.  We need educationists, not law makers or women rights groups.  Anyone hearing?

Tuesday, July 05, 2005

With Sweden, the world comes a full circle

This year, the Swedish were deprived of their annual eye-candy. The feminists, banned Miss Sweden successfully.

The notable fact is, that they banned it quoting "Objectification of women" and "Treating women as sex objects". While in India, we consider beauty pageants as progress, and the opening up of the societal attitude towards women.

A couple of years ago, Miss Afghanistan took part in Miss Universe contest and this was highly acclaimed by the developing world as the new face of a progressive democratic Afghanistan, and the only ones who condemned this were the fanatic islamic clerics.

Isn't it funny that though different in nature, both the feminists and the fanatic clerics have talked about the same thing - a ban of beauty pageants?

I don't really think the pageants are all that bad myself. I wonder if any girl who won a title at one of these competitions, would not agree that it changed her life for the better, forever?

I personally think, all feminists are women who never made it to the pageant themselves. He he.

Just kidding there, but dont ya think the world doesnt really progress or regress, it just goes around in circles? In a few decades, maybe Afghanistan and India will too ban the very 'progressive' pageants in the name of feminist idelogies, and then maybe Sweden will start them all over again, and then... The saga goes on!!!!!!

Monday, May 02, 2005

Moo-vies in Bollywood.. YAWN...

Indian film industry proves size DOES NOT matter. Bollywood makes the highest number of movies in the world per annum, and an equally large number of stupid movies.

Even movies which are a hit, are generally the sob sob melodrama stuff which is even more unbearable than watching a Chinese soap in Chinese!

Its been years since I dared to spend money on watching a Hindi movie. Years! I mean it!!
The recent release of Tango Charlie followed by Kaal proves that something's terribly wrong somewhere. Is it that the movie makers have decided in unison to make worthless after worthless non-entertaining movies?

And please ask them to not blame the audience. The standard defence is "The audience didn't understand". I mean, the poor audience spent hard-earned money to go watch the movie for entertainment, and it must have surely tried to understand and make sense and enjoy.

Also, there's this 'item' song which is thrown in and is expected to make the movie a hit. This is the same like expecting a beautiful menu to bring in customers instead of delicious food.

As a movie buff, I am seriously greatly disappointed.

Where's the GOOD STUFF in show biz gone??

Indeed, a beginning

Its interesting to live in India. Its even more interesting to see the world, and then again live in India. This large land of contrasts, cultures and mystery is like a rainbow whose colours have been smeared together, but the arch still remains.

A land where a mercedes and an elephant use the same road in a city of over 5 million even today, is the land I come from.

I love the country for a lot of things, and I dislike or even hate it for a lot of things as well. This blog is my dedication of penning down my observations and recording a journal of the opportunity I have given.. to be an Indian and live in India.

A little about me.. I am 26 when I am starting this blog, have recently started a business consisting of recruitment and immigration consultancy, am single, have traveled to USA and Kazakhstan, and stand on the threshold of a horizon that lies interestingly shrouded in mystery.

My urge to write, combined with my urge to share, has finally allowed this blog to see the light of the day. I hope this blog serves a purpose.

Cheers**
Phalgun.

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